You don’t really think of yourself as charismatic. In fact, it’s a compliment reserved for few people that you know.
BUT …. what if someone were to tell you how to be charismatic? And it wasn’t rocket science? Huh? Then would you try it?
Here are her three factors and a brief “how-to” for each.
Be more present in your attention to others. How? Actually, just paying attention to the fact that you want to be more attentive works imediately.
How you carry yourself can tell the whole story. Feeling wimpy? You betcha that it’ll show unless you figure out how to self-manage.
A tip: When entering an interaction where you want to be charismatic, work on your power by physically positioning yourself outside of the room. Stand tall. Swagger as if John Wayne lived inside of you. Work it, friend. A little drama can help.
Then, when you are face-to-face, a little of that confidence will linger and it’ll show.
If you’re a grouchy ol’ crankster, this’ll be a hard one for you. But for most of us, we like to smile and send warmth. That’s it – smile more. Think of something warm, and you’ff project warmth.
Recently I noticed that I look lots younger when I am smiling. My serious face is downright depressing, so I have committed to myself to hold a smile whenever I can.
Thanks to Olivia Fox Cabane and her book, book The Charisma Myth. There’s more in there! Take a look for sure.