August 18, 2014
You know those people that you avoid because you are dreading something that you need to talk about? It’s an uncomfortable situation or a sense that it’ll not turn out well, so you run the other way. Or you just crawl under a rock and hope it goes away.
We call those “Dreaded Conversations” and they are indeed uncomfortable. Asking yourself why, and whether they are worth pushing through anyway is an important step. You can do it!!
Address two simple pieces to get through it.<
- Ask yourself what the objective would be to have the conversation. Options may be
- I just want to get it off my chest
- I’d like to hear her side of the story
- I want to get a solution as quickly as possible
- I want to prevent this from happening again
- I’d like him to be aware of how this affected me
- Prepare yourself by scripting the first sentence or two. This will get you into the conversation more safely. You’re more likely to have a more positive outcome. (no guarantee! We know how “people” can be). Here are some examples:
- I’ve got a perspective on something. Hear me out on this then tell me what you think.
- I’m not sure how to say this because it makes me uncomfortable.
- I feel like you and I have a great relationship, so
- I shouldn’t feel like I’m dreading this but …
- This is hard for me to bring up but I think there’s some value in talking about it.
The video at Skirt Strategies digs deeper into “Dreaded Conversations”
More ideas? Here’s a great podcast about having the Courage toHave Tough Conversations. (Link at Skirt Strategies)
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