February 7, 2012
You have a great network! If it weren’t for the people in your worklife that you knew to call upon, you would not be nearly as successful.
You are good at creating relationships, as well as maintaining them. Of course you could be better, and you know it.
I am just saying …. this area can always use a little shot in the arm. After all, are there any people in your life that you don’t findideal to work with? Yeah. Thought so.
I would like to challenge you a bit this month on assessing exactly what you are doing well, where your strengths are, and how you might be able to apply those to more, shall we say, needy situations. Difficult people.
Take these steps:
1. First, I ask that you just take a week to listen, watch, interact. As you do, take inventory of what relationships are going well, and which ones are just so-so. Also, observe what you may do well. It will be areas like these:
- listening to needs of others
- managing your emotional reactions
- keeping in touch and keeping communicative
- providing value to others
- giving positive feedback
Those are just some examples, but if you do them, include them as a strength of yours. All are important.
2. Then use those strengths on those people that may need a bit of reinforcement. Giving gratitude or positive feedback, even if you have to dig deep, is particularly successful with others.
3. Last, go to all your critical relationships, and provide one piece of gratitude to them. Use your own words to describe something like “I truly appreciate the way our relationship has seemed to evolve and work through so much change and challenge. Thanks.”